Forgiveness is difficult when we think the person who sinned against us doesn’t understand what they’ve done to us. They don’t “get” it. They seem to continue on like nothing happened, or they don’t acknowledge or agree that it ever did happen. But we know, way down in our heart, that they sinned against us […]
The Bible says, “For the wages of sin is death…” (Rom. 6:23). It also says, we “…were by nature children of wrath, just as the others” (Eph. 2:3). What these passages mean is that our rebellion and sin was primarily against God and his authority in our lives. Our sin produced a rift between us […]
So, for the past several posts we’ve been setting the stage for how a wife should talk with her husband about things she thinks need work. Okay, so here’s a scenario: After six months of marriage Tom (the husband) gets out of the shower and leaves his wet towel on the floor for the 175th time. […]
Today I’d like to write about two philosophical and theological positions: patriarchalism (as defined by the feminists and egalitarians) and egalitarianism. Let me say up front that if Patriarchalism is what is represented by feminists were true, I would be against it from top to bottom. So, what I’m writing here is not regarding what […]
Some have mentioned that Jay Adams (also Chris Braun, Jim Newheiser, etc) said that you couldn’t forgive someone unless and until they asked for forgiveness. I thought this way for a long time too. The main difference between what thought before and what and I am saying now is that there wasn’t a word for […]
So, now the next question comes, can a wife ever talk to her husband about issues she sees in their marriage? Here’s my answer. Sort of. It depends. Are the issues you want to fix related to those things in your past (things you just told him you forgive)? Or are they things that are happening […]
I keep running into Christians who refuse to forgive other people for the terrible things they have done to them. There are a number of reasons for this, they tell me: they can’t forgive because the person hasn’t asked for forgiveness; they can’t forgive because the person doesn’t show enough contrition in their confession, they […]
The letters I answer in this space were made. They are at best a composite of various counseling situations I’ve been involved in over the years. If you recognize yourself in any of these situations, please know that that is most likely because they are very common situations. Dear Pastor Lawyer, Thank you for writing […]
The letters I answer in this space were made. They are at best a composite of various counseling situations I’ve been involved in over the years. If you recognize yourself in any of these situations, please know that that is most likely because they are very common situations. Dear Pastor Lawyer, I’ve been trying […]
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