Working with someone who has practiced surrendering herself to her emotions for years requires much patience. In this type of situation, the counselor must be willing gently to repeat core teachings as often as necessary. Concluding that counselees with severe disturbances are not really trying can have destructive results in their lives. More than one […]
Wife’s Role
A Letter to George and Betty Introduction: You both need to know that there is a difference between council and prophetic proclamation. When I say, God says in his word that thus and such needs to be done or not done, it is not my opinion and it is not counsel. It is the word […]
The Church is Vital To Biblical Counseling Ministry
“Biblical counseling must not only be church based; it must also be church driven and church saturated. One of the critiques often leveled against biblical counseling is that we can leave observers thinking that all you need for successful counseling is a godly counselor, a Bible, the Holy Spirit, and a willing counselee. All biblical […]
Husband’s Role
Questions for a Godly Husband 1. Are you Born From Above? Men, the first step in having a strong and healthy marriage is to first make sure that you have been saved from your sins and that you are following Christ. There are many things that will come up in your marriage: finances, children, decisions, etc. You and your wife will have […]
Marriage Counseling—the Context
INTRODUCTION: Marriage counseling can be the most exciting counseling you will do. It can also be the most exasperating and frustrating. It is great to chat with young couples who are thinking about getting marrieds and who know what they are doing. It is terrible to listen to young couples who have no clue what […]
The Will of God
INTRODUCTION: What Christian does not want to live in the will of God? What an admirable aspiration, and what a difficult thing to figure out. Many Christians have needlessly tied themselves up in knots over this issue. THE TEXTS: Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a […]
Anger
Introduction: Few things destroy people faster or more completely than anger. It crushes those it is unleashed upon and it shatters the person who has gotten angry. It often destroys every kind of relationship and even when forgiveness has been requested and granted, things just don’t seem to be what they were. It destroys relationships, homes, churches, […]
The Sufficiency of Scripture For Counseling
This book is a collection of true accounts about real people. The men and women featured here received hope, peace, joy, and dramatic change in their lives from Jesus Christ as they met with him in the pages of his Word, the Bible. These stories recount the details of how these people came to seek […]
Counting the Cost of Sexual Immorality
I know this article is a couple of years old, but I thought it was worth sending out again—just in case you missed it the first time.