Hard Providence

Hi Pastor Smith, I’m really sorry to hear this. its a really hard providence and situation. Here’s what I think: You can only do what you can do. In other words, you might want to help in ways that you just can’t. It might be time, or finances, or something else. You just need to know […]

Disagree Agreeably

You wake up in the morning all bright-eyed and bushy-tailed because you had a great evening last night and you are anticipating a wonderful day today. You get up, do that bathroom thing, have breakfast, and get your Bible to spend some time alone with God. Or you do that bathroom thing and grab your […]

When Scripture Seems To Conflict

What do we do when following one passage seems to contradict another passage of Scripture? For example, I’ve read several articles that tell wives of “abusive” husbands to confront them with their sin, and the verse used to justify this is Ephesians 5:11, “And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather […]

Fights and Quarrels

What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, […]

Feet On the Table—Anger

Sandy, carrying several overflowing bags of groceries, struggled to get through the front door. She had had a horrible time shopping. The store was crowded (the students were back and hungry), the kids fought and nagged the whole time, and she hit her head on the door when she was trying to pick up all […]

As Christ Loves the Church – Gave himself

What does “gave himself” mean in Ephesians 5:25? I ran into this question as I was trying to learn to live with my wife in an understanding way. What does Paul mean when he says to love your wife like Christ loved the church and gave himself? What Jesus did when he gave himself is […]

Rising Above: Wives 3

The letters I answer in this space were made. They are at best a composite of various counseling situations I’ve been involved in over the years. If you recognize yourself in any of these situations, please know that that is most likely because they are very common situations. Dear Pastor Lawyer, Thank you for writing […]

If The Guy Is As Bad As Everyone Thought

The letters I answer in this space were made. They are at best a composite of various counseling situations I’ve been involved in over the years. If you recognize yourself in any of these situations, please know that that is most likely because they are very common situations.   Dear Pastor Lawyer, I’ve been trying […]

I’m An Angry Man, But My Wife Ain’t No Saint

The letters I answer in this space were made up. They are at best a composite of various counseling situations I’ve been involved in over the years. If you recognize yourself in any of these situations, please know that that is most likely because they are very common situations. Dear Dr. Lawyer, I ran across […]