Live in Love — For the Pre-Married
Dr. Pastor Lawyer,
I have been wrestling in my and my fiance’s interactions. It seems like there is so much gray area. I want to be affectionate, not cold, but not ruin our marriage by sinning now. It’s also challenging for me because I know a bunch of rules isn’t the answer. Do you have any big picture guidelines or ways to pray\think about this?
Thanks, Bill
Bill,
I would say that you should love her with everything you’ve got in you. But by “love her” I mean, love her with God’s love. Love her for her sake and long term joy and happiness. Love her in a way that will help her to be a godly and glorious woman now and in preparation for her to be even more so after you are married.
Do everything with her, for her, and to her that will ensure this higher goal–God’s glory. If this is your goal, aim, and rule, you won’t have to make a lot of rules about what not to do. You’ll be too busy doing what you should be doing. Live in joy rather than living in suffering with what you can’t do. Rejoice in what you have now, and look forward to what you’ll have later because of how you are living now.
I hope this helps.