Things Our Culture’s Counselors Never Say

You can find this whole article here. It is authored by Jared Oliphint.

Why do we put the adjectives “biblical” … in front of “counseling”? We want to consider the things that our culture’s counselors never say:

• It does not get said in our culture’s counseling that “Man does not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.” [Matt. 4:4]
• It does not get said that, “Cast your cares upon him” because it matters to Him. [1 Pet. 5:7]
• It does not get said that, “He has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.’” [Heb. 13:5] Therefore you can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper. I will not fear. What can man do to me?” [Heb. 13:6]
• They never mention that God has a name.
• They never mention that God searches every heart and that every human being will give account before God.
• They never teach the fear of the Lord that is the beginning of wisdom.
• They never mention sinfulness and sin and that there is some kind of compulsive and obsessive drive in people to suppress the knowledge of God.
• They never mention that suffering is meaningful within larger purposes.
• They never mention Jesus Christ because Jesus is a standing insult to self-esteem, self-trust, self-confidence and all the “self” words that our culture believes are the answer to what is wrong with us.
• They never mention that God really does forgive sins.
• They never mention that the Lord is our refuge, and in the midst of terrible afflictions it is possible to walk through the valley of the shadow of death and lose all earthly good and not to despair because he is with us. There is safety—fundamental safety and refuge.
• They never mention that biological factors and personal history factors exist within the purposes of God. That those things locate our struggles and moral responsibility but do not trump moral responsibility.
• They never mention our propensity to return evil for evil, or that we should return evil with good.
• They never mention that human beings are meant to become, will all our heart, conscious worshipers.
• They never mention that we are meant to live to use our God-given gifts to further dedicate our lives to the coming of his kingdom.
• They never mention that the power to change does not lie within ourselves. There is an implicit belief that in some way if you can just understand yourself well enough and tap into interior resources and find enough support of human relationships and maybe get a bit of a chemical tweak on your moods and emotions, somehow that’s enough.
• They do not pray with and for people.

But there is a Father who is a Vinedresser, and there is a Son who is a Shepherd, and there is a Holy Spirit who is a life-giver and a fruit-giver. There is someone outside ourselves who is why we want counseling to be Christian, worthy of the name “Christian.” Part of our worldview is that problems do not get solved until the day we see Him face to face. Only then are the tears all gone. Only then is the struggle with our besetting sins all gone. But that hope is a true hope.